Neutrality
comes from a state of clear and clean energy flow. When you are truly
neutral, there is no right or wrong or good or bad. You are not making
a judgment on any level. Neutrality has no positive or negative
charge. If someone says something neutrally he/she is simply stating
what is, without any energetic charge attached to the statement.
People will unconsciously (and sometimes consciously) throw energy, as
judgment, at others. Energy thrown at you is an opportunity to play
with the power of being spiritually senior, the state outside of
resistance and judgment. When someone is throwing energy, you can stay
neutral, stay out of resistance, let the energy pass through and
maintain your space, more often than not, you will be able to take the
charge off the situation. It is amazing how powerful neutrality is.
Neutrality
must, however, go hand in hand with awareness. As your awareness grows
it is important for your neutrality to grow at an equal rate. When you
are aware of a person who is in distress, perhaps someone living in a
victim reality, it is advantageous to see what truly is. This person
is not wrong for running that energy. It is simply what is going on
for him or her. This is an opportunity for the Spiritual Warrior to
practice neutrality in relationship to someone who has lost their space
because of a personal wound; in this case creating the victim reality.
The Spiritual Warrior's first priority is to stay neutral and own
his/her personal space. If appropriate, it may be an opportunity for
the Spiritual Warrior to assist the other to a higher energy frequency,
a more peaceful state, by using his/her spiritual practice.
There
is a critical difference between empathy and sympathy. When you go
into sympathy and take on responsibility for someone, it is possible
you may match their energy level, get drained and lose your space.
Your energy bubble or personal space becomes undefined as you give your
energy away. People in need will generally take as much as they can
get. If a being does not know how to access energy cleanly, they will
try to get it from others. That is largely what the victim game is
about. Often people playing this game will push for you to lose your
space, to give your space away to them. This does not serve them or
yourself.
It is often easier to hold your own space with
strangers than with family members and people you know. It is
essential to stay neutral with the ones closest to you because they are
the trickiest people to stay clear with. These are the spirits with
whom you have the most karmic connections. Staying neutral with the
people closest to you is excellent daily practice for the Spiritual
Warrior.
The opportunity in any situation that challenges you on
an energy level, is to stay neutral and get the learning; to stay aware
of what is going on and to work on taking the charge off what is
happening. It is so important to pay attention when you start judging
others because that is when your own issues have been triggered. Most
of the time when you react or strike back it is because you have taken
something personally, it has hit an issue that needs healing. As a
Spiritual Warrior, you need to notice when core issues are being
triggered/lit up in your space and avoid going into resistance or
fight. This is great training for staying neutral. Notice whether you
have taken offense? Are you hurt? Did you take something personally?
Is your reaction because you felt like the person wasn't respecting
you? Then, ask your higher self, your Source, what is the most
appropriate action to take? When you are dealing with a difficult
situation with someone by validating the person as Spirit rather than
invalidating what they are saying or doing, this will likely take the
charge off the whole dynamic.
By giving another their space and
remaining neutral, you honour and take advantage of the healing
opportunity for both parties. Part of why another person is in your
presence is for both of you to receive a healing. The art is being
able to see what the healing opportunity is and then being able to
receive it. Look at how often you are in the role of helping out
another as you heal yourself.
It is important to name "what is"
neutrally. What is the issue and can you name it clearly without
getting your own issues involved? If you add them to the mix, everyone
goes into resistance and the situation quickly becomes a mess, and it
is much harder to receive the healing from the event. You will run
into problems when you get your own personal concerns involved with the
dynamics at hand. Instead, you can stay neutral and use the situation
to heal yourself. That is why we create people with the same issues as
ourselves in our life, to mirror for us and to light up in us what
needs to be worked through, until we reach a place of neutrality with
it.
Sometimes people push too hard while trying to own their
space. It is almost like an attack. They don't have the tools and
will start to lose their power as they push too hard. Actually much of
that dynamic is simply the person wanting to be acknowledged as Spirit,
and if they are not getting that they will get more dramatic. A simple
spiritual hello can be empowering for them. Remember, whatever you do
with your energy will be modeled by those around you. If you can stay
neutral, validate Spirit and name clearly what is, this is empowering
and people will start to match that and become more powerful too.
Our
energy systems can be in a constant state of flux and can change in
response to many outside factors. For example, when you resist energy
directed toward you from another source, a charge is set up that will
essentially restrict your energy flow. When you resist energy, there
is a lack of flow, a frozen quality, a hard edge. Whatever you are in
resistance to is often attracted into your personal space and will
likely get stuck there. A simple way to shift your energy out of
resistance is through neutrality/non-resistance. Imagine your body
having the clarity of glass, and like sunlight streaming through a
window, whatever energy is not your own will simply keep flowing
through and right out of your space. It is as simple as that. This is
one way to cultivate more neutrality.
You create your own
reality. You create seeing or experiencing different situations in
order to learn. If your creation involves another person, then that
other person created the situation with you. They need it to learn
their next piece as well. Each side has created the other side to
learn from. As you get your next piece of information, it supports you
moving along your path more efficiently.
When you are sitting
"in judgment" about something, it means you are not getting the
learning. Judgment keeps you stuck. It is about defending your issues
because you are afraid to face them. When you are in
non-judgment/neutrality, you can get the learning, and move forward.
Manifestation,
which our bodies are part of, is made up of opposite poles. Life moves
between these poles: pain/pleasure, good/bad, male/female. The nature
of manifest reality is to constantly be flowing between the two sides
and it is possible to do this with full neutrality. Spiritually there
is no good or bad, or right or wrong, there are just opportunities to
learn, not to judge, in order to become brighter and more free. If you
do not get the learning, you are bound to keep repeating the lesson
until you truly get it. It is important to be aware of the games you
are playing, and why you are playing them. Always ask yourself: "What
is the learning?" Get the learning and move on!
There is a very
thin line between judgment and non-judgment. Are you judging a person,
or are you stating what is? The difference is found in considering
whether there is any judgment in it for you. How are you perceiving
the situation? If your perception is, good or bad, should or shouldn’t
and so on, this means you are not neutral and there is charge on the
situation for you.
Here is an example of neutrality: a youth is
being irresponsible and breaking into cars, you sit him or her down and
say, "I'm sure what you are doing is very exciting but you're breaking
one of the contracts of this culture. If you continue on this path,
you probably will get in trouble with the law. Is that the path you
want to walk? It's OK if it is, just be aware of the choice you are
making right now and make sure it is what you want.” You can name what
could happen and propose choices, rather than label the youth or the
action as bad or wrong. "This is the path you are on. Every path
leads somewhere. Look at where this one leads. Is that what you
want?" This is very different from saying, "What you're doing is
wrong." You are not saying the youth should not do something, you are
describing a path. You are presenting the options rather than saying
that one is better or worse than the other. That is true non-judgment,
true neutrality.
Becoming aware of when you are in judgment
provides you great insight into your own issues. When you judge
another person or their actions, there is most certainly something
about the situation that is relevant in your own past experience. All
judgments are based on wounds. You need to look at why you have the
judgment there and turn it around and look at yourself. If you didn't
have an issue, a wound related to the situation, you would not judge
it. That's the way it works. Use the judgment to find out more about
yourself. Use the judgment to heal yourself. It is an amazing tool.
Do not judge yourself for judging, but always use the process.
You
can also use a situation in which you are being judged as a way of
growing spiritually. Judgment is invalidation, and it is an
opportunity to practice non-resistance; to just let it pass through
you,"body of glass". Do not take it on and let it get stuck in your
space. Do not give away your power. If everybody in the world worked
from a place of non-judgment, we would be living in a state much closer
to bliss.
Judgment is not a spiritual principle. It is a body
dynamic. If we lose our connection with our higher self, Source, then
the body will start to go off on its own. One of the interesting
things about manifestation is that bodies and analyzers can go off on
their own tangents where they can create mass levels of judgment. They
can even justify whatever they do in the name of God or Source.
Holy
wars are going on all the time all over the planet. They are based in
competition and judgment, and have nothing to do with Source. The holy
wars are about body wounds and power over others. As soon as you touch
into a place of Spirit, of Source, you feel love for all sentient
beings. All you want to do is heal and love. The idea that killing
people can be involved as a way of being with Spirit, with Source, is
ludicrous. It is simply judgment and all judgment is based on wounds.
Remember making a choice neutrally is not a judgment, if it has no
charge for you, it is most likely clean and therefore a choice - not a
judgment.
The act of establishing power over others, as
opposed to personal spiritual power, is a prevalent one in our world.
It involves beings who are trying to find their power, but they do not
know where to look, and so they push for power over others. They are
trying to find what is missing and they will fill the "hole" with
anything; with power over others, material objects, a new lifestyle,
something to make them feel complete. What is missing, of course, is
their spirituality, their connection to Source, and there will never be
enough accumulated wealth to fill that hole. The only way you can fill
it, ultimately, is spiritually. There are holy men in India who have
no material wealth and walk around like kings. They have no physical
wealth, but they have such a high level of spiritual wealth that
material possessions do not matter. It just fades away because
spiritual wealth, spiritual wholeness, is the most complete, fulfilling
thing there is. It is that connection with Source and that wholeness
spiritually that every being on this planet is looking for, consciously
or unconsciously, and transcending judgment is an important part of the
process of finding those missing pieces.
