Can male and female live in harmony or are we going to stay in the male/female battle? The battle is about control of power, supported by "group minds" and "destroy councils" that want to perpetuate the game on this planet. The whole intention of maintaining the male/female game is to keep the individuals so engaged in the battle they do not have time to do the spiritual work that will allow them to become conscious and free.
As I have stated, one of the classic ways for male and female to be involved on the planet is for male to be responsible for female. Male is responsible for taking care of female with respect to the basics like food and shelter, and even her comfort or happiness. The reciprocal contract is female is responsible for male's emotions. The assumption is "he doesn't know how to run feelings" so the female will take responsibility for them. What she actually does is take on his emotions and run them for him in her space because he has been programmed with the idea he is not supposed to run his own emotions or to be emotional. This means male has a lot of foreign energy in his space he is not able to control and, thus, he becomes owned by. Male will then attempt to compensate for this state of ownership by trying to control female. He could make the money and control female's access to the finances.
So the game is she owns him and he owns her. At the most obvious level, it appears male is playing out the "male ego trip" and has all the money and female cannot do anything. On a more subtle level, you see he cannot make a move without her permission. As that battle escalates, female invalidates male for not being sensitive or emotional, and male invalidates female for not being able to manifest or to get something done. This whole game is heightened if there is any level of sexuality involved.
One of the situations that holds the most charge with respect to losing one's space in the male/female game is sex. Every individual has rules and programming around sexuality and the male/female game. You can begin with a clear understanding with your partner about your roles in a relationship, but if there is any physical intimacy, the contract or the understanding completely changes.
We are living in a culture involved in a fascinating dichotomy. We are part of a major control game that uses male energy as a foundation structure, but at the same time, makes sure males are shut down and not allowed to have their energy. The female side is also limited with respect to personal power. Male and female own one another, which does not, of course, allow for a healthy relationship. Some individuals fight the dichotomy by simply not committing to long term relationships for fear of losing their power.
Any relationship between two individuals will be based on a Spirit to Spirit contract. Whatever the arrangement, it is fine as long as it is clearly understood by both parties. It is different expectations that lead to trouble and begin the male/female game moving. What creates the disharmony or the problems is the unspoken expectation or contract to which the other person is not conscious of having agreed.
The way out of this dilemma is to be responsible and whole within oneself and aware of the entire male/female game and how it connects to one's own sexuality and all the other pieces. Male and female must learn to own their power and not give it up and be owned by another, even in the most intimate situations. It is about true personal responsibility.
