There is a huge difference between running your emotions and having your emotions run you. When you become your emotions, you become body senior, and when the body is senior, it can do great harm, even abuse. The being is not in charge, and the body is open to all kinds of influence: foreign energies, internal issues, whatever. When you are present as Spirit, you can stay in control.
One of the main purposes of the spiritual journey is to heal unconscious issues. A manifest body is a very powerful place to heal from. When your body dies, the energy or consciousness remains intact, and then you usually manifest another body to continue. You will pick up where you left off because whatever your issues were will still be at play, still intact. If you do not heal the issues you will keep on looping through the same type of reality, over and over. It is like a tape recorder with a circular tape on it, and it just keeps running around and around and around.
Perhaps you believe you are not good enough (special/worthless programming) or you never have enough (scarcity issues), or you feel threatened and need to be on defence, on guard (fear of losing personal space). The loops are always based on these types of core issues that are not healed. You will stay in a similar loop until you can release the programming and the pain and heal the wound. Only then can you step outside of that loop.
The loops of invalidation or the unhealed issues do not need to own you. You do not need to be limited by the issues because they are fundamentally not you. You are Spirit. Spirit can be experienced in a location. Your main location right now is in your physical body. That is where you focus your consciousness. The more you can bring the consciousness of Spirit into your body, the more healing you can do, and the more you can shift those loops. You can create a new reality. You are creating your reality all the time. Why not create what you want rather than a reality based on your old issues? Just let go. You can heal yourself at any time; it is your right.