The relationship between male and female energy is one of the most interesting dynamics we play out on this planet. When male and female are in harmony, it creates balance. They can be incredibly powerful together and in anything they create or do. There is, however, a male/female "game" that exists, that does not support this balance and tries to put these two energies into dangerous competition. This imbalance is created and maintained by beings that want to shut down awareness in this world. If these beings can keep male and female in battle, which is generally the case, a large percentage of their energy is taken, their consciousness is lowered and they can be controlled.
The male/female game is fascinating because it happens on so many levels, varying from superficiality to life and death. Female "fight energy" and male "fight energy" are very different. Female fight energy or the way female destroys has a very quiet quality. It is somewhat unseen. Male energy is more action oriented, and thus the way he destroys is more visible. So, on physical terms, the female will fight invisibly, the male will blatantly commit violence.
One side of the game requires female to constantly invalidate and own male. She is shutting him down, but it is not even seen. It is invisible, and in the end, the reality is he cannot make a move without her permission. He knows that if he does, he might be killed for it, just as she might be killed from the male side. The threats are on that level. Conversely, there are also those marriages where the male controls everything and is always invalidating female. "Oh, female cannot do it." In the past, this was done very visibly. In some parts of the Middle East, female is literally owned by male. It still happens on less visible levels all over the world.
This is the male/female battle. You can see happily married couples who are, on an energy level, a spiritual level, battling out the male/female game their whole lives. If they are not conscious, a good part of their energy can be wrapped up in the fight and they will not become aware. Male owns female, female owns male - that is the male/female game.
In history, one side or the other has become conscious enough to name what the other side was doing. During the feminist movement control by the male side was named. From the women's point of view, our culture has been set up in many ways to invalidate female energy. Equivalent pay for equivalent work is one example.
For male it is a struggle to become more conscious, because male emotions and male energy in their pure form, (not the power over others dysfunctional form) is so invalidated in our culture. You can see many men who do not own their true male energy or their emotions at all, walking around trying to be macho, trying to access it from that place. Gangs in North America are an example. These young men do not know how to access their emotions or any of their true male energy. They are going out and shooting people, trying to initiate themselves, in order to have some kind of power. Lately we are seeing the beginnings of a men's movement waking up and starting to question: "Where has my true male energy gone? Where did I lose my emotions?"
Male and female lose themselves to each other in many different ways. I knew a couple where both the husband and wife were totally owned by the other. The man came from a cultural background that said male is more powerful and he kept his wife in a state of fear and invalidation. They both contributed financially, but he ensured that the house was held in his name. They had been married for 30 years, and she was constantly in fear of being out in the street. She felt her survival depended on him and he reinforced the idea that: "Female is not worthy. Female is no good." She was completely invalidated in the relationship. There was another piece, however. She owned him on a different level. He wanted to retire and make some big changes in his life, and she would not let him. He could not make a personal move without her permission. She played her part very quietly. It was not visible like the male side. He was obvious, she was quiet, but the invalidation went back and forth.
The traditional roles of "male is provider" and "female is caring" are a common agreement between male and female in our society and if both sides are clear with the contract, it can work. Unfortunately, more often than not in this day and age, this is not the case. With the advent of "equality", there is the belief couples should be equal, both making their own money and having their own time and space. At the same time, we also hold on to the idea that male provides and female cares. Thus, there is a contradiction. Both male and female must be absolutely clear about their respective roles and ownership of their personal space in order to call a truce in the battle and be able to simply enjoy one another.
Until we become more conscious and do the healing on this piece, the war will continue on our planet. It is a war between male and female. It is the male/female game, but I am calling it a war because it is so real and intense. The games are played out on that level and the violence that occurs is worthy of a war. The amazing piece is most people are unconscious of their role as a soldier in the war. Each side has weapons. A female uses emotions and sexuality as a weapon in the game to capture and control the enemy (male). The male weapon is power. He uses money or pure energy to capture and control the enemy (female).
There is a "council of destroy energy" (the destruction of consciousness on the planet) that wants to control manifestation, and can stay in control by keeping the male/female battle alive. It is a vicious war. Females and males are being killed all the time through this game. The battle is being played out on the level of life and death.
In this war, the dynamic finds female moving in and owning male's second chakra, owning his emotions, sexuality and clear feeling, and male moving into and owning female's third chakra, owning her power. Little girls are taught, "It is dangerous for you to own your power. "You don't need your third chakra. You don't need to run your power." A female hands over her power and it is now owned by male. It is often played out in this or a similar version; male earns the money and female is financially dependent. Female is programmed and brought up to believe she does not have her power. That power is only available through male. Male is in control of the flow of power to female, so she is tied to him and has lost her freedom. There are many different variations of the same game.
If female is invalidated enough, and cannot access her own power, she will find a male to own her power, to own her third chakra. Female power looks very different than male power. It is less visible, but it is just as powerful. If her energy source is shut down in a female body, she is going to go to male and get the energy, but it is not clean and will not run cleanly in her space. The game can get vicious as the female is less and less empowered, and will, eventually, strike back at her oppressor.
For the male, on the other hand, he gives his second chakra to female, he looks for a woman who will own his second chakra and says, "I'm not even going to access it. I'm not going to feel anything." The basic thought is, "Here, honey. You take this, and you tell me what to feel. You own me sexually/emotionally." If you talk to most males on the street, they have no idea what they are truly feeling. If you take a look at their second chakra, it is either owned by their mother, their wife, or their girlfriend. Male was taught to give it away. "You don't need that, son. You don't need that second chakra. That thing doesn't do anything for you. All you need is your third. All you need is your power. You don't need to feel anything."
When female captures males' second chakra, she also takes over his whole communication system because the main way a being knows what is going on for its body is through the communication of emotions. It is actually an amazing way to own somebody. If a being loses access to its emotions, it has no idea what is going on for the body, and the body can be owned completely. Male becomes a drone for female, out there bringing home the bacon, wondering why he is doing it. He cannot experience his emotions so he does not even know what he feels about it.
The underlying programming for both males and females within the male/female game is based on lies. The control game is being played out so male and female have to stay in this constant battle. It is all just a distraction to keep male and female battling on the planet so they never see the bigger picture and begin to transcend spiritually. If the destroy council energy involved can keep the battle going far enough, everybody stays trapped, held in spiritual bondage. The premise is to keep the male/female game going at all costs. Keep the females weak. Keep the males unknowing of what they think or feel. In other words, keep them owned. Because this game has continued for centuries, you end up with the planet in the state it is presently.
Many spiritual practices have tried to take measures to get past this piece. That is the idea behind the whole concept of celibacy, the separation between nuns and monks. Unfortunately, it does not ultimately work because the issues still remain. Even if there is not a human being for a 100 miles around, the need to control or to be controlled will still exist until you heal it within yourself .
Essentially, to heal this game, to move past this piece, what needs to happen is for female to own her power, her third chakra, and for male to own his emotions, his sexuality and clear feeling, his second chakra. Female needs to be able to have her power. Male needs to be able to feel, independently. Female must really recognize and acknowledge her power and not give it away or hook up with a male to access power. Male must have his emotions and be whole without female. If two people can get to that place, they can actually have a healthy relationship as two whole individuals relating to each other rather than two wounded people controlling each other.
How long is this game going to carry on? It may continue on the planet forever. As Spiritual Warriors, we need to learn how to transcend the game. We will not be free until we do. It is very important to look directly and honestly at how you have played it out. Female looking at how she has controlled male and male looking at how he has owned female.
Men are taught very early to disconnect from feelings because mother is right in there, feeling them for him, from day one. In the old tribal cultures, measures were taken to work through this. When a boy turned eight years old, the men ran into the village, and took the boy away from the females for two years. All the women cried and screamed. The boy would not see another female for two years in order to break the boy's dependence on female (Mother). They knew without intervention, the little boy would have his mother in his space, owning his second chakra until he eventually met his wife and then she would move in there. He would never, ever make the necessary separation, and would be constantly corded to female. There were also rituals for female to ensure female would own her power.
Unfortunately, this is the state of Western culture. All these men still have their umbilical cords plugged into female, whether it is their wife, mother or girlfriend. When they lose one, they go right on to the next relationship because they need someone to fill their second chakra, quickly. What they do not understand is they could be filling it with themselves and Source. It is the same dynamic for female. She is always searching for someone to own her so she can access his power. She cannot survive without him. He can not survive without her. Complete co-dependence. Welcome to the majority of relationships in the world today.
The male/female game on the planet can and will be played out forever unless something major is shifted - but you can heal it for yourself. It is up to you to heal this dynamic within yourself, for yourself - you can create your freedom. You can end the war in your life, even if the world population as a whole is not ready.
